In December 2018 I did a brain dump of everything I wanted to accomplish in 2019. I wanted to enter a new year and decade feeling strong. That I had a handle on things moving forward and I had jettisoned everything that wasn’t working for me. That included dreams that were no longer servicing me. You know the dreams you hold on to because you’ve always had them. If I didn’t have a plan for them moving into a new decade I didn’t want to continue to carry them.
That said I wrote everything down. A few of them I broke into smaller actions and started my year. Move forward twelve months to December 2019. Over the holidays I reviewed my goals. I had crossed a few off, never accomplished a few and let go of others.
The thing was I concentdrated on what I didn’t get done in the past year. I felt like I had failed when I looked at my list. What I wasn’t taking into consideration were all the things I did do that weren’t on the list. All my wins. I was just focused on the negative. Or what I considered negative.
I have read that our default is negative (fight or flight) and I do believe that. It wasn’t until I started thinking about what I did in the past year that I realized I had wins. Lots of them were not on my brain dump. My trip with my sister, reconnecting with a work friend, finishing another round of edits on a novel, signing up for SHE Quest, doing an Instagram Challenge and being mentioned in the The tea chest as a blog to read.
I was so focused on what I didn’t accomplished I wasn’t celebrating my wins. When I changed how I looked at my year I realized it was great. Yeah, I didn’t accomplish everything on my list, but do we ever? Why is the default the negative? Why don’t we celebrate our wins?
So this new year and decade I am working on celebrating wins. Wins will be my default. No more I should have, could have….. Yes to acknowledging and learning from my mistakes. What can I take forward, let go of or do another way. Those are wins also. I am refocusing and changing. I’m looking at things in a positive light.
I started a “Win” page in my bullet journal a few years ago and realized I haven’t added to it. It just became another page in a book. So 2020 I’m celebrating wins. I’m going to focus on wins being my default not what I didn’t accomplish. If I’m continuing to work on something however slow that is a win as it is moving forward.
So let’s start a “Win” page in our journals or phones. WOW I did stuff and I’m continuing to do stuff. If you have a big project break it down into smaller pieces and celebrate wins along the way.
You can always start now!