Not my regular blog post but I felt like I had to. I’m using “you” as it feels stronger and to me makes the point.
Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me. Remember that saying? I do when I was growing up. The thing was I didn’t grow up with social media. You said it to my face or to my friends and that was it. It wasn’t posted on Facebook, Snap-chat or Tweeted. It was easier to contain and faded out faster.
Yeah, sticks and stones can break our bones but names? Well names have people committing suicide. This will seem over the top to what I am going on to say but I wanted to say it – it is true. Don’t give phony tears after trashing someone on social media. “I didn’t mean it.” No longer cuts it. If it ever did.
Trashing someone on social media can have serious consequences. Think about it. You could have a death on your consciousness if you have one. Really think about what you are doing before you hit send/publish or post.
On a subtler note I have been listening to people around me discuss how people describe toddlers. For the most part I don’t think these people are deliberately saying hurtful things but still…. “Oh she is big for her age.” “She still has lots of baby fat on her.” Seriously? I have been wondering if these same people would say “Oh she is awful skinny.” Or “You still have baby fat on you since your pregnancy.”
Why are we still focused on looks/weight? These are toddlers for crying out loud. Can’t we find something else to say? How about she has her mom’s beautiful eyes. What an infectious laugh. Why are we STILL focused on this #*^&?
I wanted to do this post as I have been watching someone deal with this. Yes, I know some of you will be reading this and thinking it is no big deal yeah a toddler will sprout up. But it can be hurtful to the parents and have them questioning if they are doing something wrong.
This isn’t bullying. I get that, but it is using your words wisely. Making a choice to make someone feel good about their selves (child) not pull them down.
Even if we think before we speak – would I want to hear this? Is this relevant? Could this be perceived negatively? I know it is a lot to process before opening you mouth. But we can at least try.
You can always start now!