Bring me happiness – realistic?

I find ideas for a blog posts in the neatest places.  This one comes from a conversation with a friend at the library.

We discussed being happy and how to get there.  A lot of people are saying  do things that bring you joy.  It makes sense. Right?  My friend’s take (apologies now if I am off course) is doing things that bring you joy might not bring you happiness or lasting happiness.  We are all caught up in the pursuit of happiness.  Do what we love and the rest will follow. We have all heard this.

Here is a different take. What if we did things with no expectation of happiness? Good deeds that might take time away from “what brings us joy”.  What if doing this the by-product was happiness? Long lasting happiness. What if instead of pursuing happiness, we pursued creating a better place for everyone?  That we started to think more of community than individually?

Also have our “wants” become more measurable than our “needs”.  It seems like we can get on a cycle of never ending wants – I will be happy when I finished school, married, have a new car, house, job, you can add to the list. Have our wants became insatiable? Running after the next big thing? Never appreciating what we already have.  Has happiness become a “want” we keep moving the target on?

Let me know your thoughts.  On happiness being a by-product and also what about our wants versus our needs. Is that keeping us from being happy?

You can always start now!



16 thoughts on “Bring me happiness – realistic?

  1. Rebecca Moon Ruark says:

    I think you’ve hit on something very important. I hope I’m able to cultivate happiness from within and not rely on others or situations or accomplishments to get there. And, as for joy–such a loaded word–the older I get the more I’m happy (another loaded word) to find a little contentment in the sun on my face or a job well done. I guess even-keeled is good enough for me!


    • You Can Always Start Now says:

      Just don’t wait until you have whatever to enjoy the moment. I agree the sun on my face, curling up with a book and conversations with friends. They make me happy. I don’t think it has to be anything earth shattering and yes feeling you have done a good job. That is worth something.

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  2. Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyond says:

    Great post! I have and friend and we often have a conversation about what happiness really is. I feel that we place so much importance on finding happiness that we forget to live and enjoy the moment. Finding joy in what we do – getting that warm and fuzzy feeling, contentment, feeling purpose in life all make up happiness to me. We are responsible for our own happiness because I believe it truly comes from within. Have a beautiful day. 🙂


    • You Can Always Start Now says:

      Agree. I think that is what mindfulness is also about – being present right now. We are such a hurried society. Always onto the next “big” thing we don’t enjoy what we have now or even the journey to get there. Yes it so comes from within. Thanks for visiting and commenting.


  3. josypheen says:

    I feel like you need to appreciate the journey as much as achieving things. If you think you’ll be happy when “you finished school, married, have a new car, house, job etc” then you’re always delaying that joy, as there is always something new to chase for.

    I went to a talk on happiness a while ago, and there is loads of evidence to show that people that volunteer or do things for other people end up happier than those that don’t. The other main bringers of happiness is deep relationships, and being present in whatever you are doing. ❤


    • You Can Always Start Now says:

      Totally. I think we delay happiness and even living when we want or have expectations that might not be met. Or like you said not appreciating the journey but always looking for the next big thing. Volunteering could fall under experiences which I think bring happiness more than material items in the long haul. You are a great example of someone having experiences.

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  4. saltpepper40 says:

    Happiness is something that everyone desires. It should be dependent on our wants and needs. I believe the person who is satisfied in their life is happy.Stay Happy:)


  5. susielindau says:

    There’s nothing wrong with having goals, but happiness is fleeting and measured in moments. I strive for positivity, being present, and reactive to what’s happening now.
    During these unprecedented and crazy times, I’m searching out more things that make me laugh, and escape the bad news loop by watching movies, writing, and reading books.
    Stay healthy, my friend!


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