Have you ever had to take a deep breath and think “is this worth getting into?” If I give my opinion or take on the matter will it be received well or blown off? If blown off am I willing to deal with that and not get angry/frustrated?
Legitimate questions. The past year has been about picking my battles. What am I willing to let go of? What am I willing to go to battle for? Choosing my battles, for me, is often about patience. What am I willing to put up with or willing to just do. Am I up for a conversation at best, confrontation at worse? What is my energy level? Mood? Will I regret not saying anything later? What is my relationship with this person? Will it matter in X many days? Do I have the patience to wait it out?
Picking our battles can be major. I don’t think we should let ourselves get the point where we are mad and/or hurt. What we do have control over is making sure the battles we choose are worth it. Even a learning experience is worth something. Sometime I take a breath and consider the source before I take a stand and you know sometimes I can say “Whatever. They are not worth my energy.”
I found out I have more patience than I thought and I am willing to let things of a few things. I consider the source, situation and even my mood. I know if I am tired I could be over reacting to the situation or what is being said.
So consider choosing your battles wisely. You don’t want to be the person all over the place and reacting to everything. When you do say something you want it to count. For it to be important enough for you to go to the mat on.
You can always start now!