I decided to do a series on life lessons. Some of these lessons I have somewhat under control and others are a “work in progress”. This is one of them. When not to talk.
Yes there are times when keeping your mouth shut is your best mode of communication. Sometimes people just want to rant if upset and at that moment offering an opinion or idea is not helpful. As they are not ready to hear it yet. Just be there.
Another time is when you are hearing about a situation that you have heard multiple times in the past. It has been discussed or maybe you have offered suggestions in the past and they are never heard, brushed off or just mouthed yes. The point is they often don’t or won’t make a change so the situation stays the same. This is a personal one for me. I still want to help, but it is energy sucking, so I have to limit my interaction. Often that is just listening. When I feel they are ready to make a change I will be there. We have to decide where to put our energy and also when people are ready to listen.
Sometime just taking a breath, smiling or nodding is all the communication we need to do. Remember once our words are out there we can’t take them back. So maybe we should start placing more importance on them.
You can always start now!