I’m listening. I so want to understand.

I am reading the book Presence by Amy Cuddy.  She talks about relinquishing power to listen. To stop talking, preaching and listen to understand. By listening and giving up power we are really gaining so much more. I wanted to share what we can gain when we let go of knowing, asserting and listening more.

  • people trust you.  Trust is a building block. So much more learning and sharing will take place when trust is involved.
  • you acquire useful information.  Just shut up and listen. Don’t be thinking about what you want to say, as right there you are not listening. Hence you are not taking in what that person is offering.
  • you begin to see other people as individuals and maybe allies.  You are knocking down those walls of “us versus them”.
  • you develop solutions that other people are willing to accept and adopt.  There is more by in when people feel they have had input and have been listened to.
  • when people feel heard, they are more willing to listen.  Listening and respecting people will get your message across when needed.

So take a step back.  Listen to what other people have to say. Ask questions. Relinquish knowing it all or even half of it. Be open to a totally different take. Let someone shine. Be that person people want at the table. You know the one – the one that makes sure everyone is heard respectfully. I think we need more of these people now more than ever.

You can always start now !


10 thoughts on “I’m listening. I so want to understand.

  1. allthethings3 says:

    Good topic. We so need better listeners these days. This book is on my to read book. Have you seen her Ted Talk? It’s good. She is also a guest on a podcast called 10% Happier with Dan Harris. It was a good episode.


    • Amelia says:

      Her TED talk is on my list. Book says 2nd most viewed TED talk ever! Read the book 10% Happier by Dan Harris (journalist?). Will have to check out his podcast. Thanks for stopping by and giving me heads up on stuff. Love it!


  2. angelanoelauthor says:

    I appreciate this short, valuable post. Listening isn’t about waiting for my next turn to talk, but does help make sure when I do talk, others may listen, too.


    • Amelia says:

      I so agree it is a skill and also one a lot of people are lacking. I’m hoping as more people get into mindfulness that maybe this will fall into place. Not sure but hopefully. Thanks for stopping by and commenting.


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