If you are just stopping by for the first time, for about six months now I have been pulling an Angel Card out weekly and posting on what that word means to me. Some words have flowed and others were a struggle. This week the Angel Card is surrender.
The Angel on the card is holding the universal white flag of surrender, even though she is the one on the top of the hill which I think is the better strategic place. Please correct me if I am wrong. So how did she get to that place? I think if we can get past the idea that surrender is just losing and going under we might be able to process it into a more positive light. We have choices coming at us all the time. Some require us to take a stand, others to agree and still others to hold off until we gather more information.
I recently said “that is not a battlefield I consider worth dying on”. Yes, way to dramatic for any situation I would be involved in. My thought process was around the amount of time and energy I would have to exert to get my point across. Looking back to similar situations I made the decision to surrender what could have been a long drawn out discussion that I knew in the end didn’t really matter or affect me in the long run.
What is worth fighting for? What will we have to do to get that win/win? Are there times when we are okay with a lose/win? Or just that battle is not worth the time and energy and in the end how important was the outcome I wanted? Surrendering is not always about giving up and walking away head down. I think at times it is walking away head up realising our decision was based on what we felt was the best decision at the time for us and hopefully the other party (if possible).
To create the life I want I think at times I have to surrender, step away and yes, decide if that battle is really worth fighting for. I only have so much time and energy. What do I want to focus them on and can I live with my decision. Living positively with your decision – well that is what this is all about.
You can always start now !