Asking for help? A strength?

I have been listening to Dear Sugars podcasts.   People write in with problems and they are discussed and opinions given through the Dear Sugars (man and woman). The problems range from parenthood, relationships, money to pushing boundaries and drawing back.


One podcast discussed how hard it is for the majority of people to ask for help.  As a society we are often told or at least given the impression that asking for help is a sign of weakness.  When did this happen?  Dear Sugars discussed how hard it is to open that door and ask for help.  Letting yourself feel vulnerable. They asked people how they felt when someone asked them for help and people are usually generous and want to help.  So where is the disconnect?    

It was discussed by Dear Sugars that we are not allowing individuals grace and the opportunity to be generous.  Overall people want to help and to feel like they are making a difference.  Part of the conversation was for us to be more open and allow people in by asking for help. Help bring out the goodness in other people by letting yourself be vulnerable. Asking for help shouldn’t be a sign of weakness.  It should be a sign of strength, knowing when to let people in and helping them make a difference.  Generosity works both ways.

Where are the areas in your life when asking for help could be beneficial to both parties?  I imagine it is in all areas!

You can always start now!


4 thoughts on “Asking for help? A strength?

  1. Invisibly Me says:

    Such a good topic to explore because I think this is very too all too often! I’m willing and glad to help anyone where I can, and yet struggle to ever ask for help myself. Sometimes negative past experiences can put people off seeking support, and other times there may be that fear of the unknown (how the other will respond) or fear of looking weak. Asking for help takes courage, and as you say, it can be a beneficial thing for both parties!
    Caz x


    • Amelia says:

      Asking for help is something I am working on. Like you I am happy to help and it is beneficial to both parties. I think we have to work at not letting negative experiences carry on into the future if they are shutting us down. Big breath for both of us as we can so do this!


  2. susielindau says:

    That’s the podcast by Wild author, Cheryl Strayed!
    I’m one of those people. I’m very self-sufficient and tend to avoid asking for Personal help. In business, I’m a sponge and ask tons of novel writing questions!


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